Why is Hair an Adoption Issue?

by Shoshanna Grey | More from this Blogger

19 Oct 2006 10:17 PM

Did you know that hair is relevant to adoption? It isn't one if you adopt a Caucasian, Asian or Hispanic child. However, when you make the decision to adopt an African, Haitian or African American child, suddenly this issue springs to life.

I was surprised at first to find out that hair is a big issue in adoption. Several African American friends have pulled me aside either to offer their help or to remind me that it is important to learn how to do Laney's hair. I also read that hair is the main reason that some African Americans are against Caucasian parents adopting African American children.

In the African American community, hair is a source of pride. Many women go to a salon each week in order to have their hair styled. Someone with poorly done hair is considered sloppy or lacking in self esteem. Learning to do this type of hair takes effort. It requires different care than, say, the long, fine straight hair that adorns my head.

Unfortunately, some adoptive parents will never make the effort to learn how to care for their child's hair. It doesn't seem like an issue to them. However, in ignoring what seems insignificant to the, these parents are showing a disregard for the culture and background of their kids.

So, how do you learn to do your adopted child's hair? There is a lot of great information available for people who want to learn how to do this type of hair. Start by searching online and you can also check you local bookstores. While you are learning, you can start with simple styles and then work up to the more complicated things.

What's important is that you take the time to learn how to do your child's hair. By learning this skill, you show your child that their culture and heritage is important and that you value them both enough to put effort into learning about them.

Related Links:

Educating Yourself About Trans-Racial Adoption

Preparing to Parent Kids of a Different Race

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Shoshanna Grey has worked as an occupational social worker, teacher, child care provider, customer service reqpresentative, college recruiter and several other positions over the years.

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