When Foster Families Adoptby Fatherofeight | More from this Blogger 25 Jan 2007 03:49 PM There are many advantages for everyone concerned when a foster family makes the decision to adopt a child that has been in their care. It is a win - win situation for everyone involved. The foster family is well suited to provide a permanent home for the child. They already have an awareness of the child's background before he came to live with them. They also know the bad habits that the child has. If the child has to go to a new home, then all parties will probably have a difficult time for a while. Several of our Gotcha Days were very difficult. Because we had no real information regarding what to expect, we were reacting to behaviors and creating more stress for everyone. The family that already has the child in their home can quickly recognize and react to correct undesirable conduct. The foster family will also have less anxiety regarding the child's birth parents as they will have already encountered them. They will already know what to expect from them. Our first few meetings with our birth mother were very difficult. There are also several important advantages for the child when he is not relocated to another home. He will be very conscious of his environment in the home where he is living. When Matthew Walter came to our house for the first time, he spent at least an hour walking around looking at everything. Even a very young baby will notice a change of surroundings. They will perceive a change in recognizable sights, noises, odors, and contacts. By staying with his foster parents, the child will already be familiar with the household. He will also be accustomed to the home and its various rooms, including his own room. He will also not have to be the new kid at yet another school. There is also some worth to the birth parents as they will know the people that the child will be living with. This will help decrease their anxiety about an already difficult situation. There is an increasing trend for potential adoptive parents to first foster a child before considering adoption. When the process works, it is good for everyone. Related Blogs: Relevantadoption tags relationships | pregnancy | baby | christmas | Scrapbooking | parenting | family | holidays | children | Food User Comments saved (270) 25 Jan 2007 03:54 PMI kept foster children in my home after my two birth children were finished school and wee pursueing their careers. I adopted them after three year in my home. If anyone is really interested in adopting , this is the way to go. It has been very rewarding and also stressful at times. I do know why God gave us children why we are young. I loved keeping kids that have no home, and I would still keep foster kids if my husband was still willing. Chris is now 18 and Stephanie is 15. Chris was 4 when he came to live with us in foster care and stephanie was 13 months. god bless anyone who will adopt or be a foster parent, it is the only thing in life I feel liken I have sacrificed for.  Fatherofeight (2475) 25 Jan 2007 04:11 PMWhat a blessing to receive your message. It sounds like you have a heart for children. Thanks for your comment. melodyes_song (80) 25 Jan 2007 10:02 PMWe got word today that we can pick up our boys, who we will foster to adopt which is pretty much the norm in our state, although we do know that barring some unforeseen wierdness that we will adopt them, and God willing their younger brother, when we decided to adopt we chose the foster to adopt route...so as Ed would say and I hope Ed you don't mind me stealing your phrase, tomorrow is our boys Gotcha Day!!!!!! And we are in prayer that soon the youngest who at this time is in a theraputic placement will join us so the boys will be restored.... Fatherofeight (2475) 26 Jan 2007 07:41 AMMelody, we are all so happy for you and the lucky boys that you will be taking into your home. Get ready my friend, it may be hard for a while. And, please use the Gotcha word, please please. It is very common in usage in the adoption community. It is a word that someday you will be able to associate with great rejoicing. I am rejoicing right now. Thanks, what a way to start the day. Community Tags foster family adopts, familiar with surroundings, less anxiety, win - win Discuss this article
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