What Kind of Child Would you Like?

So you finished the major part of the adoption application, now on to the hard questions. There is a section in the application asking what type of child you are looking for. I know this sounds like this would be an easy section but honestly it is definitely one of the hardest. The questions range from what age you are looking for, to will you accept a child with disabilities. You and your spouse should put aside some time and start thinking, praying and discussing what you are wanting. Some of the questions you should think about: Do you want … Continue reading

Time Magazine Writes About Facebook and Adoption

Facebook can be a great way to keep in touch with living family members. But, what if your family isn’t ready to connect with you yet? Time Magazine recently did an article discussing the potential of using facebook to find one’s birth parents, or to find children who had been adopted by another family. If you have ever used facebook, you are already aware of how easy it is to find people you want to connect with. You can use their friend finder tool to locate people you went to high school with, former and current co-workers, and family members … Continue reading

Sandra Bullock’s Adoption Finalized

I love Sandra Bullock as an actress. Her movies are outstanding and she finally achieved well-deserved recognition with an Academy Award for The Blind Side. The first movie where she caught my attention was Demolition Man. That is an awful movie. Her career obviously survived. My very favorite Sandra Bullock movies are Miss Congeniality and Two Weeks’ Notice. Practical Magic has just recently become a must-see Sandra Bullock movie. I finally saw Hope Floats and While You Were Sleeping too. I have yet to watch the award-winning The Blind Side. Like many people who tend to follow celebrities through movies, … Continue reading

Adoptions: Non-Refundable?

I’ve always loved children. I’ve been babysitting my whole life, went to school to become an elementary grade school teacher, and taught preschool for two years after graduating. Since becoming a mother, I look at children in a totally different light. Before, kids were just kids. I liked them, and most of them were fun. However, some were cute, some weren’t as cute; some were brats, some were angels. Now, when I see a child, I think to myself, “Someone carried that child in her belly for 9 months. Someone gave birth to that baby. Someone probably loves that child … Continue reading

China Adoption Book Report Series: Wanting a Daughter…Part Three

My last two blogs discussed Kay Ann Johnson’s research on abandonment and orphanage care in China and whether Chinese parents desire to adopt girls. This blog continues to explore domestic adoption within China. Johnson and her colleagues have interviewed 1200 Chinese adoptive families. Many of these interviews were in person, locating adoptive families by word of mouth. Johnson says that the procedural paperwork, discrimination, and expense (relative to income) faced by parents adopting internationally is far less than those faced by the Chinese families who adopted children in the late 1990s and early 2000s. Chinese authorities wanted to forestall the … Continue reading

Book Review: Love, Adoption, and Brownies with Sprinkles

Sometimes a book comes along that manages to write about a single experience, but one that is so ubiquitous that we think, “Why didn’t anyone write a book like this before?” Star of the Week: a Story of Love, Adoption, and Brownies with Sprinkles is based on the authors’ own daughter. She has some unique circumstances not shared by her classmates, but the setting is one almost all kids in early school-age can relate to. I n preschool, kindergarten and early elementary school, a frequent occurrence is for each student to be assigned a week to be the “Star”. They … Continue reading

Book Review : For the Love of a Child: The Journey of Adoption

This book is called For the Love of a Child: The Journey of Adoption (not to be confused with another book called For Love of a Child: Stories of Adoption). This book is published by Deseret Press especially for Latter-Day Saints, but it is very useful for all expectant parents considering placing a child for adoption and their families, as well as informative for relatives, school personnel, counselors and church leaders. The book is unique in its exploration of the spiritual journey many people go through in dealing with an unplanned pregnancy, infertility, and/or adoption. The first part of the … Continue reading

Another Type of Adoption: Embryo Adoption

Soon after I became an adoption blogger for Families.com over two years ago, I wrote blogs introducing three kinds of adoption—domestic infant adoption, adoption from the child welfare system, and international adoption. But now there is another kind of adoption: embryo adoption. “Embryo adoption” or “Embryo donation” is when a couple donates unused embryos that were created and frozen during infertility treatment to another couple. These embryos are transferred to the womb of the recipient mother. Technically this is not “adoption” at all in most states, since most states agree that the legal mother of a child is the mother … Continue reading

Adoption in the Little House TV Series, Season 8

Although this blog (one of a series on adoption storylines in the Little House on the Prairie television show) focuses on season eight, the two episodes (“Growing Pains” and “Uncle Jed”) which continue the story of the new Ingalls family members James and Cassandra were discussed in the season seven blog. In the season eight opening two-parter, “The Reincarnation of Nellie”, Mrs. Oleson is devastated when Nellie and Percival move to New York. Dr. Baker suggests adopting a ten-year-old girl to cheer her up! Nels and Harriet visit an orphanage and look the children over. Harriet falls for one who … Continue reading

Unexpected References to Adoption in Children’s Books: Little House on the Prairie

It must be the phenomenon that once something is close to you, you see it everywhere. My daughters and I find adoption issues cropping up everywhere, even in books and shows that aren’t supposed to be about adoption at all. The girls and I have been reading all of Laura Ingalls’ Wilder’s books –nine books written by Laura Ingalls Wilder about her life from age five through the first years of her marriage–plus a book written from Laura’s mother’s point of view, another from her daughter’s point of view, and even one from the viewpoint of “poor little rich girl”, … Continue reading