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The Good Bye Video

Today is the day of the last visitation between Rebecca and her biological mother. Thanks to a successful mediation she has agreed to relinquish her parental rights in return for written updates on all three of her children each quarter, a picture and video of the kids once a year. We offered her the opportunity to make a video for the children to watch when they got older. We had hoped this video will allow her to tell the kids about herself. We thought it would be a great gift for the kids when they got older. They would have … Continue reading →

Mediation Day Part 3

We are headed back into the mediation room; we have been hanging around town for the last two hours and the time has come to hear if the biological mother of our kids is going to relinquish her parental rights to Rebecca. If she says no to our offer which included quarterly updates, yearly picture and a video yearly than we are going to have to go to court to fight her for custody. I am ready to go to court if I have to but I would prefer she did what is best for Rebecca. As I mentioned before … Continue reading →

Mediation Day Part 1

Leading up to the mediation with Rebecca’s birth mother we sat down and gave a lot of thought to what we were willing and not willing to do. The CPS case worker talked to us and explained the whole procedure to us and gave us suggestions on what the biological mother may request and what we should and should not consider. Given the fact that she had lost her rights to George and Steve we had a feeling she was going to want them tied into this mediation agreement somehow. Legally she has no right to ask for anything to … Continue reading →

Open, Semi-Open or Closed Adoption part 2

If you are considering placing your unborn child up for adoption or you’re considering adoption I hope that you read my last entry. If you did you will realize that both the adoptive and birth families have decisions to consider. The decision to participate in an open, semi-open or a closed adoption are decisions that both parties need to decide on. The first part of thinking about the decision is to consider how comfortable you are with sharing your child’s life with another person who is responsible for your child. I can see it from a few different positions. As … Continue reading →

How Many Times?

So I have a dilemma that I thought I would share. As I have shared previously when we were trying to get Rebecca’s biological mother to relinquish her parental rights so that we could adopt her we went to mediation. During the mediation we agreed to quarterly updates for all three kids as long as she kept her part of the agreement. She disappeared therefor it voided the mediation agreement. We tracked her down a while ago gave her another shot and she said she would like to get updates again. We agreed as long as she gave us something … Continue reading →

Quality Time with Your Spouse

A couple of weeks ago, I blogged about the importance of getting away with your spouse. We were about to celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary and despite original plans to take this romantic vacation to Maine, it had all blown up because of finances. But in the end I was grateful since it was during the time of the hurricane that we would have been there. The day before our 20th wedding anniversary we went back and forth with ideas on what we could do. We wanted to get away for the entire day but not spend a lot of … Continue reading →

It’s Official She Relinquished

Visitations between Rebecca and her biological mother are over. The biological mother has agreed through mediation to voluntarily relinquish her parental rights to Rebecca. Now we have a mediated agreement in place but she still has to go to court to make it official. The CPS case workers have warned us that there is a chance that she could retract her agreement and that the mediation agreement is more of an honor agreement than a legally binding one. The court date was set for her to appear in front of a family court judge and tell him that she officially … Continue reading →

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Adoption Day #2

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I have detailed in a number of blogs what turned out to be a fight for Isaiah. He came to our house on a “foster to adopt” basis because we already had adopted his four older maternal brothers. His birth mother had been encouraged by a movie (Losing Isaiah) to fight for his custody. She finally decided, during court ordered mediation, to sign a relinquishment of her parental rights. We agreed to send her, through an intermediary to protect our identity, pictures and a narrative of all five boys every six months. We had a “goodbye visit” with her and … Continue reading →

The Fight for Isaiah is Over

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The first mediation session ended without success because Lola decided that she needed to talk to her drug rehab counselor at the last minute and we could not find him. We were all guardedly optimistic about the second session. We started to worry when Lola arrived. She looked really bad. I had seen her like this many times before. She told us that she had not talked to the counselor and that we were going to have a trial because she was not going to sign anything. When she came back, she told me that she had lost the pictures … Continue reading →