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Let’s Talk Pregnancy Blog Top Ten – Ways to Break the News

I distinctly remember the ancient Full House episode in which Aunt Becky attempts to announce her pregnancy to Uncle Jesse during a family game of Pictionary. First she drew a wheel of cheese, then I think she mocked cutting it in half, then came a bottle of ink, and of course a picture of a baby. Cheese. Half. Ink. A baby? Sheeeeshalvingababy? She’s having a baby! And the Tanner family erupted with congratulatory whelping. There’s more than one way to break the news of your pregnancy to family, friends and significant others, so why not make it really fun – … Continue reading →

The Long Awaited TPR

For foster parents hoping to adopt their foster child and parents hoping to adopt their child’s birth sibling in the state system, the waiting for termination of parental rights (TPR) of the birth parents can be an emotional journey. What may look like an open and shut case doesn’t always turn out to be that way. In most cases birth parents are given every opportunity to regain custody of their child. Sometimes it can look like a birth parent is not following case plan. The state and the judge might agree that TPR in inevitable based on the evidence, but … Continue reading →

Adoption Loss: Legal-Risk Placements

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My last blog talked about adoption loss, meaning the grief experienced when an anticipated adoption does not happen. Some adoptions are known as “legal-risk placements” from the start. Often called foster-adopt or fost-adopt programs, these are not voluntary placements by the birthparent, but situations where the birthparents are at risk of having their parental rights terminated. For example, a mother who has illegal drugs in her system when she gives birth may have the child removed from her care by the state, but may be given a certain amount of time in which to go through addiction treatment, participate in … Continue reading →

Birth Family and Entitlement in State Adoptions

I just wanted to touch on some thoughts I had relating to birth family, entitlement and communication. These are mostly things I wanted to get off my chest, but I hope someone who needs to hear them will have a better understanding of one adoptive mother’s perspective anyway. Allowing Contact with Birth Family Most parents I know would agree there is often a sense of loyalty within family—even within birth family. Whether or not this is true in any specific case, it’s because of this many adoptive parents are leery to allow much contact—if any, fearing some information, out of … Continue reading →

Glossary of Special Needs Adoption-Related Terms “T-Z”

Special Needs and Adoption-Related Terms: Adoption terms and special needs words may vary from agency to agency.The terms used in this Special Needs Adoption-Related Glossary may be slightly different from one State to another. A | B | C | D | E-F | G-H-I | J-K-L | M | N-O | P | Q-R | S | T-Z T Termination of Parental Rights (TPR): The legal process which involuntarily severs a parent’s rights to a child. Related TPR Blogs: The Case File Therapeutic foster home: A foster home in which the foster parents have received special training to care … Continue reading →

Things I Wish I was Told about Adoption

I’m not only going to share the things that I wish I was told about adoption prior to doing it, but the things I’m glad I was told as well. Keep in mind this list pertains primarily to state adoptions: • Whether you give birth, or adopt, if you haven’t met the child prior, you really never know what you will get in regard to special needs. • The process of waiting and emotional ups and downs will better prepare you for the road ahead. • Get involved with a support group! Being in one ourselves, my husband and I … Continue reading →

Celebrating the Finalization of Adoption

The long awaited day finally is approaching when the adoption case will be closed and you will have gained the rights that other mother and fathers are entitled to with their children. With the judge’s signature on the adoption decree, and the attorney taking the decree to be filed, it is finished! There are countless ways to celebrate this special event. I’m going to just share a few. Since our family adopted through Oregon’s state adoption program, we had the option to be present when the judged signed the adoption decree, free of charge but someone I know who had … Continue reading →

Finally Finalized

When starting out our adoption journey, my husband and I found the waiting to be difficult. One moment we needed to submit documentation right away to be processed, then in another moment, we would find our selves waiting wondering if we were forgotten. We believed once we had our child in our home, the waiting for finalization wouldn’t be hard. When our first son was placed in our home, I can’t explain the joy we felt in becoming parents! We had waited 19 months from the day of our first orientation class, for the placement of our son. There was … Continue reading →