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Handling Sibling Jealousy

Bringing home a new baby is a joy for the parents. For siblings this new arrival may not be cause for tears of joy but tears of frustration. During this time siblings can feel replaced, left out, and alone. Despite the parents best efforts to make their older child feel loved the child may be jealous of all the time spent with the new baby. Many times feelings of jealously come later on after the novelty of the new baby wears off for the sibling. A delayed feeling of jealously is not uncommon as the baby grows to even a … Continue reading →

Month in Review: June 2008 Adoption Blogs

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I kicked off the month by attending a Cultural Fair with exchange students and au pairs. In my blog Celebrating ALL Cultures, I assert that celebrating all cultures makes our kids believe we truly accept diversity and aren’t just accepting them because they are our kids. I talk about some of the history of adoption with Proxy Adoptions. This means adoptions where the prospective parents didn’t meet their children first. In the past this sometimes meant there was little in the way of a homestudy or any education for the adopting family. Today a homestudy is always done, and while … Continue reading →

Sibling Attachment

Something that I get asked about a lot is my children’s adjustment to one another. We took three kids of different ages and backgrounds and threw them together and said “you’re family now”. It makes sense that some people wonder how that went! I have honestly been amazed at how well it has gone. Once Josiah was in our home I realized that we had a responsibility to protect him – even if that meant protecting him from his own siblings! I wondered if it would be too hard for him to have two older kids in the house, if … Continue reading →

Books About Having a Sibling

If this is your second baby, you will likely be thinking about how to prepare your child for the birth of the new baby. Taking kids to sibling classes and spending time around babies will help your older child get used to the idea. Another great way to prepare small kids for a new baby is to read books on the subject. Here are a few good books about becoming a sibling. My New Baby And Me: A First Year Record Book For Big Brothers And Big Sisters is a great choice for children who are a little older and … Continue reading →

Attachment Parenting-Routine

It’s difficult to argue with all of the evidence indicating people live less stressful lives when they have a routine. It might be a hectic routine, but having some predictable plan takes away the element of surprise. Some people do enjoy a more spontaneous lifestyle and that’s fine when they are in control of their lives and adults. Most children do very well when they live in a home with a well-established routine. Knowing when and where meals are eaten and having some kind of a mealtime ritual provides a sense of belonging to something bigger then just who we … Continue reading →

Attachment Parenting-When A Child Has A History.

I am a firm believer that most children thrive in an environment where one parent is home typically the mother. I feel all children do well when they have a parent at home, and are able to spend the bulk of their lives in their home with their parents. School and other activities are wonderful, but when these things are not happening there is no place like home. An adopted child especially benefits when one parent can be a full time stay at home parent. At least during the first year to three years, I feel it is especially important … Continue reading →

Attachment Parenting-Teaching a Life Skill

The majority of attachment parenting techniques used are actually normal and basic things any parent of any child might find positive. Most of the things adoptive parents focus on are the things other parents don’t even have to pay attention to because it is just a given fact. I am your mom and that is that. Adoptive parents have an added worry in the back of our minds, “I hope my child has a healthy attachment?” We may appear to be slightly over concerned and over responsive to our children. Other parents, friends, teachers, and grandparents may suggest we are … Continue reading →

Part 1 Attachment Parenting of Adopted Children

Children with attachment difficulties often have a very different view of life and what it means to be part of a family. Attachment disorders occur when a child doesn’t have a safe and secure opportunity to learn how to attach during the first three years of life. There is a lot of information about attachment disorders, and the symptoms. The purpose of this series will be about parenting for attachment with our children. Parenting for attachment is a positive way of parenting any child and regardless of the type of attachment disorder a baby, toddler or child may have parenting … Continue reading →

When you become the Adoptive Parents of Siblings.

Even the most experienced and well trained parents may find it is more then we expected the first several months after siblings move into our home for adoption. The fact there is more than one child being placed usually means least one of the children will be older. Except in the case of twins and twin parenting is special no matter what. The siblings may have been kept together while in foster care and in some cases they were not together but the older child knows and loves the younger sibling/siblings, very much. As the adoptive parents it can be … Continue reading →

Baby Social Skills

One difficult stage in any baby’s life is the stage when they are more and more mobile, and still do not have the ability to communicate clearly. That is what we are currently facing with my 14 month old. He wants to be right in on the action with pretty much everything. He wants to be at our level while we are cooking so he can see what is going on. He wants to join in the fun with his siblings in their game of the moment. He wants to be able to communicate his feelings, but he just can’t. … Continue reading →