Request of Medical Information from Birth Father

by Melissa J | More from this Blogger

15 Sep 2006 08:30 PM

As child number 7 born to my son's birth mother is currently in state custody, I have decided to take the opportunity to inquire about medical information on the birth father that is allegedly the birth father for 6 of the 7 children. In the past, the state has been unable to obtain reliable information on him. As our son is getting older, we are having more questions about the medical history and hope we may get some of these questions answered soon.

Dear (Birth Father's name withheld),

I am the mother by adoption to your 4th son (our son's name). When (our son) was placed with us, the state gave us as much information they felt was necessary for him to have. Unfortunately for (our son) there was very little information the state provided on you. We were told they were not able to obtain much. We were able to get quite a bit of information on (birth mother's name) which we've found very helpful.

We are hoping you would be of help to (our son) by being open to either permitting the case worker to share some medical information with us, and/or sharing some things about yourself that may interest (our son) one day.

(Our son) will likely want to know what you were like growing up. What were/are your hobbies? What was your favorite subject in school? Do you like sports? What kind of music do you like? Did you grow up with any faith?

We're having some trouble getting a medical diagnosis for (our son) and were hoping if there was anything that you can share with us as to any diagnosis you may have had, we might be able to figure out what is going on and get him the best treatment. Do you know of your family's medical history?

(Our son) is a great kid, happy and full of energy and life. We love him with all our hearts and want to give him the very best we can. We are so thankful for his life and feel very blessed to get to raise him.

We really appreciate any help you may be willing to give. Please share with the case worker whatever you can.

Take Care.

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Melissa J (13710) 16 Sep 2006 02:00 PM

Because of the nature of this case, it would not be in our best interest to send this. I am prayerful that the information will be coming to us soon through the child's adoptive mother, by the information given to her by our state. Waiting.....

Grammi58 (396) 16 Sep 2006 02:33 PM

MJ-I think you & your husband have every right to know the medical history of you son's birth father. Good luck in getting it. Grammi

Megan Bayliss (3586) 16 Sep 2006 03:49 PM

Oh MJ, what a difficult position to be in. I blogged yesterday on making Life Story Books for adopted or fostered children. Medical info is one of the things that needs to go into the life story books. It is so important. Check out the article - I've linked it back to you. http://mental-health.families.com/blog/confessions-of-a-life-story-worker-part-2-of-2

Melissa J (13710) 21 Sep 2006 10:14 PM

I checked out your blog. Life story books are such a great way to keep such important and valuable information on children--esspecially though adoption.