Please Relinquish Letter

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08 Sep 2006 05:01 PM

I don't believe I'm in any kind of position to send this letter, but it's been weighing on me. The birth parents in reference are extremely dysfunctional and likely will not retain rights to their child. They will probably drag the case out leaving the baby in foster care for a longer time-time that could be spent bonding with his new mother and growing up with his birth siblings.

Dear (Birth parents names),

I am the mother by adoption to your 4th son (our son's name). Even though the kids have been adopted into different homes, we are so glad to have openness with each other for the kids' sake.

I am so glad to hear the both of you have been making an effort to be involved in (my son's baby birth brother)'s life. I know your heart is to be able to keep him and raise him. The other families and I am concerned that by not allowing him to be placed into a loving home that can provide for every need, with some of his birth siblings, that we will never know him, and he will never know his brothers and sisters.

I know you love (baby) very much and want the very best for him. I just ask that you would consider what a gift it would be to him to have a stable loving family who have the means to meet every need and want of his; who will be blessed to grow him up and love him. No one ever said making these kinds of choices is easy. I hope and pray you will look at what's best for your own lives and especially what's best for (baby).

Please take care.

I know requesting a parent give up their rights is a controversial topic. There are some cases out there that I can truly say are better off this way and this is one. Knowing all the details that I do, this request is perhaps long over due.

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Michelle Vandepas (579) 13 Sep 2006 01:04 PM

Humm, Touchy subject. In foster care reunification is the norm.. At least to push for it. I don't think caseworkers are allowed to talk about relinquishment. Are you close enough emotionally to approach the bmom in person? Let us know how the letter works Michelle (http://fost-adopt.adoptionblogs.com)