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Adoption Blog in Month in Review: June, Part Two

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I reflect on my co-blogger Lyn’s blog in the Education Blog about teen-age girls making a pact to get pregnant and raise their babies together. Teen mothers who plan adoption for their babies are less likely to go on welfare than those who parent as teens. Unfortunately, most mothers choosing adoption are young adults—teenagers often decide to parent. Of course, some teen moms do a fine job—but these girls will quickly realize it’s no lark. My blog Wild Horses Couldn’t Drag Me Away from You cautions that some doctors’ and dentists’ comments and policies regarding keeping parents out can be … Continue reading →

Other Adoption Loss Scenarios

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My last blogs, What is Adoption Loss? and and Legal-Risk Placements, talk about the disappointment and grief that ensue when a planned adoption does not happen and describe some situations when this might occur. Other situations of adoption loss can occur when a child whose birthmother who had arranged to place with specific parents literally dies before or after the birth. A famous, thankfully rare, situation was the crash of a jumbo jet carrying several hundred Vietnamese children to the United States for adoption during Operation Babylift just before the fall of Saigon in 1975. A baby may be born … Continue reading →

Things All Children Should Know About Adoption

Makala after her first day of school. When most children start school, the idea of having any “other parents” in their lives is something the average child has never thought about. For children who grow up in biological families with the same parents since birth the topic of adoption may never be mentioned. Some of these children may have adopted a pet and understand adoption as something slightly different then that of a child being adopted. When these children meet adopted children, and especially an adopted child who remembers being adopted, it can create a tense and confusing situation for … Continue reading →

How do you choose a child you’ve never met?

Can I ask you a question? Just one question…? How on earth am I supposed to say yes or no to a child I have never actually met? As I mentioned the other day, we have been presented with a potential match. We had some questions, and we had some concerns. We were initially given what they call a “child study” on this girl. The child study is similar to the home study, but while the home study is the information on an adoptive or foster family, the child study is a document containing information about the child. Based on … Continue reading →