Loving an Adopted Child

by Fatherofeight | More from this Blogger

30 Dec 2006 02:23 PM

I am certain that some people are reluctant to adopt because they doubt they would ever be able to love adopted children as much as they love their biological children. No one has ever said that to me directly, but they have certainly implied it. Medical professionals and school teachers, in particular, have talked to us about our adopted children in a way that they would not dare to talk about our natural children.

I don't have real children and adopted children. I have eight children that God ordained for me to have from before the beginning of time.

Raising children is hard work. They can be very frustrating at times. Last night, I took our two year old with me to the grocery store. He was very difficult. The highlight of the trip occurred when I discovered that he had opened a plastic bottle of baby shampoo and had been pouring it on the floor as I pushed the cart. It was not that funny at the time. I could not put up with incidents like that with a child that I did not love.

Many adopted children bring a lot of problems with them when they come into a home. At times, there is a terrific amount of stress and strain put on the household. Sometimes, that situation will persist for many years. I cannot comprehend how two parents could commit themselves to such a task if they did not feel a deep love for the child.

We all know parents who place their own needs ahead of their children. For them, having children was something that just happened. Their lifestyle reveals where their hearts are. This type of parent should definitely not adopt.

Most parents are devoted to their children. For these parents, their children are the focal point of their lives and the most important factor in any big family decision. This type of parent will love any child that belongs to them, regardless of how the child came to be in the family.

Our two youngest children go to a preschool program three days a week. I always look for them in the playground when I drive by the school. My heart leaps when I see one of them. The fact that I am not his biological father is irrelevant.

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Linda Hansen (1796) 30 Dec 2006 04:49 PM

Having one biological son and 2 custodial sons, I agree, there is no difference. Love is love. Art

Fatherofeight (2475) 30 Dec 2006 10:38 PM

Hey Art, I heard that you are going to be blogging?

Linda Hansen (1796) 31 Dec 2006 07:31 PM

Yes Ed. My first post should be Jan.1. I am excited about working with you guys at families.com. I love this site and all the info has helped me tremendously. I can't wait to be an active part of such a great community of knowledgable bloggers. Art

Fatherofeight (2475) 31 Dec 2006 07:50 PM

Nancy and I look forward to it also, Art, welcome aboard.

PATTI (580) 03 Jan 2007 12:25 PM

Dear Ed, Another good article. It brought tears to my eye when you said if you go by the playground you look for your children. I think most parents have done that. Once again it reminds us that God is good. PATTI