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Media Week in Review January 6th – 13th

We have such a great selection for all types of interests this week in Media Review. Last week, Tristi interviewed author Anita Hackley-Lambert. They discussed writing as therapy and the inspiration and research behind her latest book. Plus here’s a review of that non-fiction book on the civil rights pioneer F.H.M. Murray – First Biography of a Forgotten Pioneer for Civil Justice. Tristi also interviewed screenwriter and novelist Carole Schutter about the challenges of writing both books and screenplays. Is Regency romance more to your liking? Try My Dearest Friend by Hazel Statham. Looking for a fun picture book? Try … Continue reading →

Must-Have Travel Accessory for Kids

I’ve spent the last eight years racking up more than 160,000 frequent flyer miles with my daughter during our annual jaunts from Wisconsin to Hawaii.  If all goes according to plan, we can get from our home to my parents’ house in roughly 18 hours. Of course, things rarely go according to plan. Honestly, I’ve lost track of how many hours I’ve spent in various airplanes and airports with a young child who would rather be anywhere other than in an airplane or airport. What I do recall are all of the mistakes I’ve made during those seemingly endless flights. … Continue reading →

Who Cares if my Family Matches?

Have you ever taken a child to one of those family friendly kids pizza restaurant and they won’t let you leave with your child? Can you believe that this could and does happen? It has happened to my family. When we went into the restaurant we were expecting a day of family fun, playing games and a pizza dinner. We all walked in got all the same stamps on our hands showing we were in the same group. No one questioned us when we were on our way in to the restaurant. The situation totally changed when we were done … Continue reading →

On the Blind Side

Some people say the recently released movie “The Blind Side” has inspired them and will inspire others to reach out to youth, through adoption, foster parenting or another mentoring relationship. Others question whether it is a good picture of adoption. Perhaps it is not realistic enough, some say. Perhaps it plays into the “rescue” stereotypes—black boy from “broken home” taken into a “good Christian home” by wealthy white couple. “The Blind Side” is the story of pro football player Michael Oher, who was a first-round draft pick for the Baltimore Ravens, and of the Tuohys, a Memphis couple who invited … Continue reading →

More Musings:

As we were leaving speech therapy last week, we mentioned our plans to have corned beef corned beef for dinner (for St. Patrick’s Day). Meg’s therapist said, “Are you all Irish?” “Sure. Every last one of us.” Except that, like most witty responses, this came to me after the fact. It’s probably a good thing anyway. Emphasizing the difference would have just made her feel different. She’s also getting to the age of being embarrassed in talking about herself and being adopted, although she seems much more ready to talk about being Korean since we had a Korean student stay … Continue reading →

An Intro and An Update

I am so excited to finally be back and writing for Families.com. It has been almost a year since I took a leave of absence in order to work to get my children’s adoptions completed and get them home. I was so grateful to the Families.com management team for understanding and for their offer that I could come back when I was ready. Well, I’m finally ready and boy do I have an adoption story for you! I will start sharing that tomorrow so make sure you check back. In the meantime, let me introduce myself again partly because I … Continue reading →

“A Time for Every Purpose…”

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I love being an adoptive parent. Sometimes I love to immerse myself in adoption–reading and talking about it, hanging out with other adoptive parents, going to workshops. But there have been other times when I love not thinking about adoption for a while, and simply luxuriating in the knowledge that these children are mine. I know I have to be careful about this. I’ve heard many adult adoptees speak about how disconnected they felt growing up when their families denied their differences. Even though they were told about their adoptions, they felt that talking about them was discouraged. I believe … Continue reading →

Feeling Different from Family?

My mother is worried. She is worried that taking our daughters to Korean culture camp, Korean lessons and Korean-adoptee playgroups will make them feel different from the rest of us. Part of me wants to roll my eyes at her and scream, “I think they’ve noticed we’re a bit different, Mom.” While we’re lucky to live in a pretty diverse community, my daughter does hear people ask me where her mother is. She’s heard someone make a condescending remark about how my children obviously have different fathers. She’s even been told once by another child that she “doesn’t look like … Continue reading →