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What Would You Like to See in the Adoption Blog This Next Year?

What Would You Like to See in the Adoption Blog This Next Year? This blog will be a little different. I’m asking for comments from you, my readers. What has been helpful to you in the adoption blog this year? What would you like to see more of? More personal experience and reflections? More informational blogs? I, for one, would like to see more comments by readers, both in the blog comments and in the forums. The forums are a great tool to ask questions which I can then address in blogs. As many of you know, I have two … Continue reading →

Imaginary Birthmother’s Letter, Part Five

This is the continuation of a letter I imagined a birthmother might write. The last four blogs contain the first four parts. Again, this is my imagination and is not based on any birthmother that I know. The letter continues: The moon was full that night too. Even though it wasn’t the first full moon of the New Year, I went and looked at it anyway. I thought about what I wanted for you. I want you to have a mother and a father, brother and sister, grandmother and grandfather, aunts and uncles and cousins. I want you to have … Continue reading →

Imaginary Birthmother’s Letter, Part Four

This is the continuation of a letter I imagined a birthmother might write. The last three blogs contain the first three parts. Again, this is my imagination and is not based on any birthmother that I know. The letter continues: You had to stay in the hospital for a while because you were small. For a few days I saw you every day, and then I went back to my friend’s house. I came back to visit you the next three days, then I went to stay with a friend who lived farther away and didn’t see you for the … Continue reading →

Imaginary Birthmother’s Letter, Part Three

This is the continuation of a letter I imagined a birthmother might write. The last two blogs contain the first two parts. Again, this is my imagination and is not based on any birthmother that I know. The letter continues: When my friends came home they took me to the hospital. You were born in a tiny room. A doctor and nurse were there when you were born. The doctor made sure you were breathing all right, and then he took you to the nursery, where you stayed in the incubator because you were so tiny. The nurse could tell … Continue reading →

Imaginary Birthmother’s Letter, Part Two

This is the continuation of a letter I imagined a birthmother might write. The last blog contains the first part. Again, this is my imagination and is not based on any birthmother that I know. The letter continues: By this time something else had happened. I began to feel you inside me. I was very scared, but also excited. It is exciting to have a human being growing inside of you. Sometimes you kicked me if you heard a loud noise. Other times it seemed like you calmed down if I spoke softly. I thought about wanting to be a … Continue reading →

Imaginary Birthmother’s Letter, Part One

I tried to imagine what my daughter’s birthmother might say to her if we were in contact now. I wrote down a letter as if from her point of view, and then decided to write a more generic version for this blog. Details have been changed, since it’s really my daughter’s story and not mine. Again this is my imagination from what I know of the circumstances of some birthmothers. It is not based on any particular birthmother. The letter begins: Dear little daughter, I hope that you are well. It is very cold here. Soon the moon will be … Continue reading →

A Birthmother’s Love

I kept reading and trying to understand. I had to wipe away tears and try to control sobs as I simply stood there staring at the words on the paper. It was all like a dream. Words that I had almost longed for my entire life, but that in some ways I had prepared myself to never hear, spelled out on this paper. “I’ve felt like a failure as a mother but my heart rejoices that at least I did right by you. Your card came at a very difficult time in my life – and I pray that you … Continue reading →

Is “Mother” Jewelry Insensitive?

A while ago, there was a debate on a listserv for parents who’d adopted from Korea. It was triggered by an advertisement for jewelry with the Korean letters spelling “omani”. Many adoptive mothers embrace wearing the jewelry as a part of honoring their Korean-American children’s birth culture. But one writer, after wearing the jewelry for years, imagined herself meeting her child’s birthmother while she was wearing the “umma” bracelet. Would the jewelry cause pain to the birth mother? Would it seem to be a usurpation of a role as Korean mother that the adoptive mother was not? Heated debate ensued … Continue reading →

Book Review : For the Love of a Child: The Journey of Adoption

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This book is called For the Love of a Child: The Journey of Adoption (not to be confused with another book called For Love of a Child: Stories of Adoption). This book is published by Deseret Press especially for Latter-Day Saints, but it is very useful for all expectant parents considering placing a child for adoption and their families, as well as informative for relatives, school personnel, counselors and church leaders. The book is unique in its exploration of the spiritual journey many people go through in dealing with an unplanned pregnancy, infertility, and/or adoption. The first part of the … Continue reading →

Book Review: The Girls Who Went Away

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I wrote a blog last week that mentioned that teen mothers who place their babies for adoption are more likely to stay in school and remain off welfare than teens who choose to parent. I said that today, the peer pressure among teens is along the lines of “how could someone be so unnatural and irresponsible as to give up her own baby?” My writing probably showed that I wish more teens knew about adoption and thought of it as a positive solution. This blog reviews a book about the other side of the story. The Girls Who Went Away: … Continue reading →