Telling Our Story Part 2

So my husband just found out that we were approved for placement with 2 little brothers. They were 14 months and 3 years old and they were very soon going to be ours. When I picked up my jaw and hung up with my sister he went into all the other information about how our lives was going to change in just 3 days. We had 2 days to get car seats, diapers, clothes, sippy cups basically everything except toys we even had to go buy beds. It is really hard planning for a placement when it happens that fast … Continue reading

He Will Tell Everyone Our Adoption Story

We were at the emergency vet for one of our dogs last night and the doctor mentioned about adoption so of course we went into what agency we had experienced with the adoption of our kids. It is so funny my normally shy husband comes out of his shell when people talk to him about adoption. The story always starts with the night he got the call that we were selected for the two boys. We had already been turned down for the first two children we were put in for so when we did not get a call all … Continue reading

Why Do You Do Genealogy?

Genealogy might be a hobby that you are passionate about, and your favorite way to pass the time. Have you ever taken a moment to think about what, exactly, compelled you to start doing genealogy? What fuels your desire to continue? The answers to these questions may be very personal, and will be different for each genealogist. You might do genealogy because you are searching for an answer. If you were adopted, you might be searching for your birth parents, and wondering if you have any half-siblings. If you gave a child up for adoption, you might be doing some … Continue reading

Things I never would have considered – Part I

I’m off to a bad start in 2011… at least as far as blogging goes. I had some technical difficulties at the start of this month, and it took me some time to get back up and running. Unfortunately, “back up and running” meant buying a new computer while we tried to fix the old one! The old one, as it turns out, is now nothing more than a rather large paperweight. During the first couple weeks of this month, while I was dealing with the computer problems, I spent some time thinking of what I have been writing here, … Continue reading

My Last Blog

This is going to be my last blog as the Adoption Blogger for Families.com. I’m looking forward to spending the summer with my kids, possibly working at their school, and taking on new writing projects. I may well guest blog occasionally for this or other Families blogs. It seems the Adoption Blog will continue, so I hope this blog, along with Families’ forums, can be a source of information and community for adoptive parents, adoptees, and birth parents. Yesterday I could think of a million things to say in my last few blogs and wondered how I would fit it … Continue reading

Adoption in the Little House TV series, Season 9 and Final Movie

This is the last in a series of blogs dealing with adoption in the popular, still-airing-in-reruns show Little House on the Prairie. In season nine’s two-part opener, “Times are Changing”, Almanzo’s brother dies. Their niece Jenny will now live with them. They are perplexed at how to help her deal with her grief and with the changes in her life. Also in season 9 is “The Wild Boy”. A deaf boy has been kept in a circus show and drugged to act as “the Wild Boy”. Jenny Wilder, Dr. Baker and Mr. Edwards discover his true nature. Although the judge … Continue reading

My Experiences with, “You’re not my real mother!”

My last review was of the book You’re Not My REAL Mother! I think most adoptive parents hear this at some point. Unfortunately, it is often hurled at a parent by a teen or “tween”-aged child casting about for anything that will get our goat. I think we’re lucky if we get hit with this while our kids are young. That shows that our kids are able to express to us any doubts they may have. And they may be more willing to listen to our replies. I dreaded the phrase and imagined that hearing it must be excruciatingly painful. … Continue reading

And Now for Something Completely Frivolous

We’ve had some heavy blogs lately, in I which expounded on how to solve some of the problems of the world. But hey, it’s summer, and everyone is talking about “beach reads”, just-for-fun summer reading. It occured to me that bestselling romance novelist Danielle Steel has dealt with adoption themes in several of her novels. **A note about Danielle Steel’s books—in some of them, characters have sex outside of marriage. (Plenty of happily married couples star in her novels too.) I have probably read only a dozen of Steel’s more than seventy novels. As far as I can recall, we … Continue reading

May in Review, Part Two

An exciting thing this month was welcoming back Rachel, who returns from her leave of absence during which she adopted three children—a toddler from Guatemala and a five-year-old and seven-year-old from Liberia! Rachel wrote An Intro and an Update to reintroduce herself to new readers and bring the rest of us up to speed. She also explained that she will be blogging under the name Shoshanna Grey in order to protect her children’s privacy. In Coming Soon: Weekly Features, “Shoshanna”described her plans to share blogs about adoption in the news, blogs about waiting children or about agencies which serve them, … Continue reading

Our Adoption Story – The Wait Gets Long

Laney’s agency originally told us that she would be home by Christmas 2006. Now it was Spring 2007 and still no Laney – and no real news either. Then we received the news that our agency had decided to pull out immediately and stop working on adoptions. Naturally, everyone panicked and for several days we thought Laney was not coming home. When I got the email from our agency I turned to my husband and said “That’s it. We just lost Laney.” My husband, being much more practical and balanced than I am, encouraged me not to give up hope … Continue reading