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Will Anti-Immigrant Sentiment Affect Adopted Children?

School conferences were a revelation to a mother of a middle-school daughter who had been adopted from Guatemala, but even more of a revelation to her teachers. The girl had reported that the teachers never called on her class. The mother sent a note to the homeroom teacher which was never answered. The mother said that the teachers were surprised to have anyone show up at the girl’s scheduled conference time at all—let alone a white professional woman. The teachers had apparently assumed that the girl was an illegal immigrant who didn’t speak English. (For another blog on racism in … Continue reading →

Upcoming Issues in Adoption for 2008

There will be many developments in adoption in the coming year. Not only are countries’ adoption policies continually changing, but the face of international adoption itself may be changed by implementation of the Hague Convention on International Adoptions. (I once thought I’d write a blog about this treaty, but now realize it’s an immense topic that we’ll work our way through together as I share bits of my research.) States continue to search for ways to deal with the exploding foster care population. Some organizations and individuals are founding innovative programs to help teens in foster care. I’ll write about … Continue reading →

Growing Up in Africa – Les and Genny Nuckolls

“Growing Up in Africa” is a nonfiction account of a man and his two daughters who went to live in Africa for a time. He had been offered a job at a small college near the village of Kitwe, and so the family made Africa their home for a number of years. The book tells some of the highlights of their time away from their native California home, and while it is nonfiction, it reads like a book of short stories. Annie and Alicia are the two daughters, and much of the book is written from their perspective. They make … Continue reading →

Basic Nurture: Catching Up

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When a child has not received basic nurturing as an infant, there is a deep need to receive what he missed, even if it comes several years later. I want to preface what I am about to write by saying that I am not a medical or psychological expert. I am raising children who were deprived of their basic necessities as infants. My wife and I have done our best to solve the problem based upon information from people who are experts and various publications which address the issue. Three of our children came to us when they were four … Continue reading →

My Journey Continued When I Married an Adopted Boy

Continued from, When Uncle Eddie Took Care of His Birth Mother. Makala, it seems like my whole life has been all about becoming your mommy–and Jeremiah’s mommy too. I have learned so many things along the way that have made me a strong mother, who is willing to learn what I need to help you grow up and become the mommy you hope to be. With Uncle Eddie, and all the children I knew in my life I learned a lot about being adopted. Not that anyone who wasn’t adopted could ever understand everything. When I was just 18-years old … Continue reading →

An Adoptive Mother’s Letter to Her Daughter: Part 2-Scar Tissue

Continued from Part 1: Choices and Consequences The good thing about this situation is that Makala and Jeremiah didn’t have to grow up unsafe, and with the help of case workers, kid helpers and God Makala and Jeremiah were given a growing up mommy and daddy to help them. I know your heart will have a scar just like Sean’s leg does. The hurts you got when you were just a little baby and a preschooler can heal up and stop bleeding but you will always still have love for your birth mom. And, that is fine with me–because, I … Continue reading →

An Adoptive Mother’s Letter to Her Daughter: Part 1-Choices and Consequences

Dear Makala, I want you to know I love you very much, and miss you every morning. I love Sean, Tori, Makala and Jeremiah all the same because I am the Mommy for all of you. My kid’s are all great kids! All smart, beautiful and special to me. A mom has a big job to help her children grow up. All kid’s make mistakes and have lessons they need to learn. Everyone makes mistakes even Moms make them sometimes. Moms are still learning and it is never too late to learn when we make a mistake. God does not … Continue reading →

Insurance Blog Week In Review January 2-8, 2007

The first week of 2007 has been an inspiring week for this Insurance Blogger! Not only because I have some great ideas and insurance things to write about–but, also because I have learned a few new things about Insurance myself. Insurance Term Of The Week: Insurance Credit Score Credit Protection Insurance. Consumer Credit Scores What Decides Score? How is the Score Used Errors Concerns Information Many of your are aware that my husband and I are adoptive parents of special needs siblings from the foster care system. I wrote many Adoption Blogs at Families.com before I took this position writing … Continue reading →

Raising an Adopted Child: #4 Ages 6-10 Loss & Differences

By the age of seven, most children begin to recognize families are usually defined by blood relationships and start to understand the difference between birth and adoption. Children in non-traditional families typically begin to realize their family is different from most others. During the early elementary school years, children start to understand the concept of adoption and the loss it means for them. Children conclude that in order to be adopted they had to lose something–the chance to grow up with biological relatives. Adopted children begin to understand they don’t have what other children have, they are different from their … Continue reading →

Allowing our Adopted Child to Feel Pride for The Genetics They Were Given From Their Birth Family.

My co-blogger, Kathy recently wrote about some of the differences and same characteristics her baby son has in common with his adopted mom and dad as well as the growing realization that her son would have brown eyes and not blue and the feeling of acceptance of diversity within our families. Her entry reminded me of some of the special things adoptive parents need to remember as was raise our children. And especially how important it is to embrace these genetic differences with a child who is adopted at an older age. Kathy will likely discuss the issue of Connor’s … Continue reading →