Celebrating the Finalization of Adoptionby Melissa J | More from this Blogger 16 Oct 2006 09:50 AM The long awaited day finally is approaching when the adoption case will be closed and you will have gained the rights that other mother and fathers are entitled to with their children. With the judge's signature on the adoption decree, and the attorney taking the decree to be filed, it is finished! There are countless ways to celebrate this special event. I'm going to just share a few. Since our family adopted through Oregon's state adoption program, we had the option to be present when the judged signed the adoption decree, free of charge but someone I know who had done a private adoption was charged $500 for a half hour use of the courtroom during the signing of the adoption decree. Getting to be present for the signing of the decree held up our finalization a few days, but was well worth it! It gave us a wonderful photo opportunity for our kids to have photos taken with the judge, our attorney and our case worker. By having these photos, my hope is my children will see how official their adoption really was. We chose not to celebrate in the court room due to the equipment in the room and a toddler running around. Our first son's finalization happened the day of his second birthday! So, we went home with our party and celebrated there. My son was then able to get in his nap and there was no hurry for me to clean up a mess. After our younger son's finalization, we took our party to the local buffet since it was lunch time. After our lunch was complete, the party went home and our son took his nap. There are some who opt not to attend court, rather have their attorney get the judge's signature and file the adoption immediately. This makes it a bit easier to plan a celebration since often; there isn't a whole lot of leeway in a judge's schedule to plan a party being judges work business hours. Please check out my related blogs: Celebrating an Adoptive Placement Melissa is a Families.com Christian Blogger. Read her blogs at: http://members.families.com/mj7/blog Relevantadoption tags Food | baby | Scrapbooking | family | children | parenting | holidays | christmas | relationships | pregnancy User Comments bwsongs (5) 20 Oct 2006 08:35 PMMelissa, I appreciate your insights!! I have not personally adopted (YET!!), but many very close friends HAVE adopted, and our niece, and God has sovereignly placed me in the middle of such joys with my music. (See www.beckywrightsongs.com to see what I mean.) Never did I dream how a conversation with my friend would lead to a song about adoption... that would lead to what's transpired over the last 18 months!! Anyway, my name is Becky(from Oklahoma), and I'm glad to be here, and blessed to read your posts!!! Ryansmommy2005 (5) 11 Dec 2008 03:21 PMI wish I would have thought about that (Taking pics) when the adoption on our son was finalized! We went to the court house then he had to see his new birth certificate (He was 5 then, we had him since he was 3) so we went to get his new one & once he had that we took him out to eat! He was so excited he carried in the birth certificate & court papers & told everyone there that now I was his legal mom! We are approaching our 1 year anniversary & he's excited. (My husband's part of the adoption was done in 2005, but his birth mom refused to sign all her rights over, long story!) So now our son wants me & him to do something on our anniversary like his dad & I do on our anniversary! Any ideas? Samual (11722) 11 Dec 2008 03:47 PMHere the prospective parents go into the court room while the child to be adopted is taken into another room, so that if for some reason the final grant is not given, the prospective parents can't do one and make it more traumatic for the child. Community Tags celebration, finalizing, forever family, party Discuss this article
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