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Talking about Tough Issues: Rape

by Pam Connell

27 Aug 2007 03:12 PM

Stress that the child was not given up because of the circumstances of her conception, but because the mother could not care for her (which may have been partly because of the emotional trauma of the cirucumstances of the conception). In early childhood: "It wasn't a happy relationship.

Talking About Tough Issues: Drug Abuse

by Pam Connell

26 Aug 2007 02:56 PM

Some of the suggestions for talking about drug abuse and physical abuse and mental illness may also be adapted to talk about neglect, whether the neglect is due to maternal depression, or to birthparents' seeming lack of knowledge of children's needs, or their seeming inability to care for another.

Talking About Tough Issues: Abandonment

by Pam Connell

25 Aug 2007 02:55 PM

Some adoptive parents are very distressed to learn that their child was abandoned. They believe that this means the birthmother did not love the child.

Thinking About Other Parents

by Pam Connell

12 May 2007 01:09 PM

Some birthmothers and adoptive families observe the second Saturday in May as Birthmother's Day. I find myself thinking about our birthmother on this day, although I still haven't figured out what I'll say to my daughters about it.

Three Mothers

by Pam Connell

10 May 2007 08:21 PM

I am my daughter's third mother. I accept that now. For a long time I didn't get it. Before I adopted, I thought all the emphasis on birthparent relationships was a bit ridiculous and certain to be confusing for the child.

Babies Produced by the Drug Culture

by Fatherofeight

09 Mar 2007 08:00 AM

At the close of a recent blog about child abuse, I was asked an interesting question. Why do women, who do not want to take care of their children, keep having them? I am by no means an expert on a question like this, but I can make some comments based upon what I have seen and heard.

Who are the Birthparents Who Place Children for Adoption, Part Two

by Pam Connell

15 Feb 2007 07:10 PM

Part One of this blog talked about countries where societal reasons are often the prevalent ones for placing children for adoption. This blog, Part Two, will deal with why children might be available because of economic hardship or being orphaned.

Who Are the Birthparents who Place Children for Adoption? Part One

by Pam Connell

15 Feb 2007 07:01 PM

Who are the birthparents who make an adoption plan for their children? Ed and Anna have spoken in their blogs of some of the issues of birthparents who have had their parental rights terminated and/or relinquished them after having their kids placed in foster care.

The Trend to Open Adoption

by Fatherofeight

13 Feb 2007 11:26 AM

Apparently, the current trend in adoption circles is toward open adoption. In an open adoption, the birth parent is allowed to occasionally have contact with the children. Most of the prominent adoption magazines strongly recommend it.

The Last Final Visit

by Fatherofeight

10 Jan 2007 05:46 PM

After Lola signed a relinquishment of parental rights, it was time to schedule a goodbye visit. I was not looking forward to it because she was in bad shape for the one before. CPS accommodated me by scheduling it in the middle of the day so I would not have to fight rush hour traffic.



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