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Attachment Parenting-House Rules.

Families fostering or adopting older children are usually well trained with ideas on making transition and family living less stressful for everyone. One very important tool adoptive parents of older children are encouraged to use is some kind of “House Rules” system. It’s helpful for everyone involved to understand what the expectations are from the start. Most families are encouraged to put the rules down in writing, either a poster or a contract depending on the age of the child. House Rules give adoptive parents the chance to let a child know what happens in their Home. In my training, … Continue reading →

Adoptive Parents True Goals With House Rules.

If you’re the adoptive parent of a child who was placed at an older age, attachment issues and disorders may be a part of your family experience. In some future Blogs, I will talk about how incentives, token rewards and charts usually don’t work well with children who have serious attachment disorders. House Rules on the other hand need to be clear, consistent and visual even for an child with an attachment disorder. If adoptive parents followed their training advice and worked, hard for a healthy transition then accepting an older child placement should have started with some kind of … Continue reading →

Older Adopted Children May Need Help Learning How Families Work.

When I write about adopting an older child my definition is any child who is walking and talking when we become their adoptive parents. By the time a child is walking and talking, they are thinking and remembering too, and in most cases, their life before becoming our child was completely different. When I have started new schools or a new job usually, I receive some packet of information that outlines the rules and expectations. Most of us find comfort in this information when we start something new. If a child is old enough to walk and talk, then the … Continue reading →